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Buddhism and Vegetarianism

November 30th, 2009

I have been thinking for a while on how I can progress with this blog. As you know Marcelo has been re-ordained and he is no longer allowed to write this blog. However, I often exchange emails with him and he gives me good advice and help. One of many is to listen to the answers within.

So I have been asking myself a lot of questions lately. One of them, or two to be exact, is about my life style. Alcohol is one of them, whether or not I should give it up. Living in a country where it is rather uncommon to do so, I believe that 2010 will see some changes of behaviour about me drinking alcohol. Whilst I don’t see myself giving it up 100% yet, I believe that I will reduce it massively. It should be about enjoyment and not about diluting my senses. I experienced the absence of alcohol before.

However, as the title suggest, no Buddhist should harm any sentient beings, including animals. Hence I am contemplating of becoming a vegetarian, or similar to alcohol, abstain during the week and have one day at the weekend to enjoy some meat. More as a special treat. I recently watched a TV show about mechanically processed meat which almost made me throw up.

But why should I become a Vegetarian? There are lists of reasons why you should become a vegetarian to be found online. For me it is mainly about not eating cheap and nasty meat, processed meat, and to live more healthily. Of course I then need to feed my almost 6 months old boy vegetarian food too, and he can choose later in life what he would like to do. I think that is fair, don’t you?

Living healthier means living with less risk to get cancer. I read a book I can recommend on “Eat to beat cancer“. It gives you a good insight why eating meat in moderation is much more healthier. It is similar to me giving up smoking: it is just the healthier option to give it up, isn’t it? There is no argument about it either :-)

According to a Buddhist source, a lot of Buddhists and non-Buddhist eventually lose their appetite for meat out of compassion for the welfare of other living creatures. But vegetarianism is not required in order to follow Buddha’s path. That makes sense. It is more about not killing an animal but there is nothing said about not being able or allowed to eat the meat.

So based on the above and the thought of how animals are slaughtered, I believe that I will step up the game and reduce meat or even stop eating it from next year.

Love and Kindness to you, and all sentient beings out there.

Volker

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Sunday, isn’t it?

October 26th, 2008

Marcelo,

Thank you for the rich content and the writing you are doing.

I am well, thank you. Weekend. I have been busy over the last few days, including a great time management/personal organisation seminar. See post in my Blurb!

So, what do I need to do? I need to sit down and empty my head. As simple as that. I need to get my vision/goals and focus where they should be before I get them down to actions, e.g. mediation for one thing.

I need to chill and think. You write so wonderful things but I need a rest at the moment, rewiring the brain before I can start thinking again. This might take a day or two, maybe a week.

Hope things are going well with you?

Love
Volker

self development

doubts and questions

October 20th, 2008

Marcelo,

I have been thinking. Thinking a lot about various things.

I cannot and I do not want to believe that I would not die in an airline crash (using that as an example), if I had good karma. Everytime I go on a longer trip, I donate something to my Buddha, asking for protection, asking to come back as I have not yet fnished what I started.

That is my humble opinion. Maybe I have fulfilled my purpose already and it is not up to me to decide. But, who decides? Buddha is not like a god that is above us all, is he? Is it the law of the universe?

So, given the circumstances, that – and I assume that – I have a good Karma. What would happen if I had been in a crash. Would I die or not?

I don’t even want to picture it, because it is almost like “I don’t mind having an accident, because I have a good Karma”. However, I understand that if we decide to kill ourselves (jump in front of a train) or drink and drive, we are changing our Karma, even if last minute, to die? Did I understand that correctly?

Marcelo, when do I know if I have good Karma. When do I know I have finished what I set out to do in this life? Will I ever know?

I need to go back. I need to revisit Gelshe’s books. I need to visit the centre and I need to find my path. And, I need to do that in my own time. I need to do that whilst I start meditating more regularly.

Thanks for your input.

How are things with you.

Love and Kindness – from a train to Leeds
Volker

Buddhism, causes and conditions, karma, offerings, personal development, self development, way of life

Sunday thoughts

October 19th, 2008

Marcelo,

First of all thank you for posting so much input. It is inspiring to see your energy and thoughts, help and advise on the Buddhism and Life. Thank you so much for it.
However, I hate to admit it, it comes at a time where it is almost too much for me to digest. I would love to put time on hold now and sit down, re-read all your entries, a couple of books and get into a routine of meditating before I continue with time. A time hole I need, if that makes sense.
I know that is not possible. What we need to do is take one step at a time. I need to revisit every entry, every book, every comment and meditate every day. 5 or 10 minutes, 7 or 12, but I need to do it.
Isn’t that the same with anything in life. If we take baby steps, it will continue to grow into a routine and we will eventually reach our goal. I have written about that a couple of times in my coaching section of my other blog. The worst thing I find is that if you know an answer but you either do not have the time to proceed or you don’t have the stamina to proceed. Or is it both?
I assume it comes back to Karma. Really liked your entry about it. Because, we can only harvest what we sow! Ergo sum. There is not, “we achieve half of what we sow” or “we achieve double of what we sow”. It is as it is. Amen. Your meditation entry is wonderful too, giving guidance. Reason me linking to them is to structure my thoughts of what you wrote.
Marcelo, you are right, we need to structure this blog a bit more. Maybe we need to move some of the entries, e.g. about meditation or about Karma as a summary on our website? Also some section about Buddhist text and teaching? We could write essays about it and publish them on publications, similar to what I do on my website?
I now need to set myself some goals. Finding time and persistence as well as stamina and routine for meditation. Secondly, I need to find a spiritual teacher.
I keep you posted on my progress.
Tust you are well, have a great Sunday.
Love and Kindness from London,
Volker

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Buddhist Thoughts of the Day

October 15th, 2008

Marcelo,

I mention it a lot but I am not sure I told you.

There is a website with the Buddhist Thoughts of the Day.

How suitable is today:

When we learn to deal directly with our complaints and difficulties, romanticized ideas about the spiritual path are no longer meaningful. We see that what is important is to take responsibility for ourselves, and to always be aware of our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

- Tarthang Tulku

Enjoy your day.

Volker

Buddhism, personal development, self development

Life – Death – the path does not matter, the goal is the same?!

October 11th, 2008

Marcelo,

Thank you for so much input. A lot to take in.

I enjoy asking, and a little bit teasing, you. You remember when I spoke about the olive tree we are meditating underneath in a few years time. Sometimes I think it will only be me, sitting on a green pasture and meditate and meditate until it gets dark. And then, I wake up and realise that it was all a dream.

Maybe we are only dreaming. I had a conversation with my wife, Jenny, this morning. I said that with increased responsibility in my job, life and environment, I still feel like I am 19 and have not changed. My perception is the same but the environment perceives me as mature.

It is as if my self-conscious has not caught up with me, protecting me from something, maybe myself. I might be perceived as the Business Development Manager and the person who can take so much on and works so hard, but in my own perception I am still in my bedroom in my parents house, looking out in the garden and watching the time go by.

Let me try to put this topic to bed about perception and karma. I need to have more thinking and meditation about karma before I come to terms with it and have a, maybe, final opinion.

I still believe that you can go different paths in life but if you are supposed to end up in China for example, you will. I believe that what meant to be will be. I will become what I set out to be or what my inner self set me out to become.

And I will. I know where I want to be in 9 years time (not physically but job wise for instance or family wise) – and, I know, if I put my heart, soul and effort in, that I will achieve it. And, I strongly believe, that if I changed jobs tomorrow I would still achieve it. Maybe not as easy or as comfortable, maybe quicker, maybe slower, but I will still become what I want to be. I am very certain about that!

Marcelo, I am a person, that cannot sit still. I find it hard to take a break, reflect, meditate or calm down. I have this inner drive to constantly do something. Workaholic they say :-( But, I will try to learn and, I will try to meditate on what you wrote, because I very much like it. Thank you for that. I am not sure when, but I know someday, I will have the 3 years, 3 months and 3 days to meditate and find my enlightenment. And, possibly, I might not be able to do it all in one go but over a few years.

You ever worked that out? 5 minutes meditation a day, 150 a month, 1800 a year. That are 30 hours, or 1 day and a quarter. Not sure if I did the math right but at that speed, just to meditate 5 minutes a day, we need to meditate for 876 years to meditate for 3 days in total? Wow! I think I need to meditate more.

But lets use it as a metaphor and say we need to put a lot of effort in to meditate and reach enlightenment. You think it is the same effort for everyone?

I agree, we need to be out there and not hide away from what we are doing or living. We cannot learn, reach higher states or anything in life, without living it. You are an ex-monk, but you think that if someone retreats from the world to find enlightenment, that it will work? Would we not go insane? I am confident I would! I need people, challenges and learning to reach whatever I need to reach.

Sometimes I think I would like to know if I am turning 80, a 100 or die tomorrow in an accident. Sometimes I do not. When are we ready to move on? When can we change to a different status, a different living being. Is it something we want to do? When are we ready?

Again, whatever path, A, B or C, D or however many ways there are, we will reach death. Our all final destiny. But, we might achieve what we want to achieve and what we were set to achieve, again, no matter which path we chose. We will fulfil our purpose in life before we move on. That is my believe – does that fit in with Buddhism?

Have a good weekend my friend.
I send you all my love,
Volker

Buddhism, circle of life, inner self, karma, life and death, personal development, self development

spiritual enlighment and sickness?

September 18th, 2008

Marcelo,

In the UK it seems like every other person is ill at the moment – mainly people I know which makes me think :-)

Seriously, I have a cold but not too many symptoms of it. More tiredness, headache, sore throat etc. But, what I noticed, in times of being “ill” there is this “something” you are more aware about your body.

You take more breaks. You work less. Your work life balance becomes more life than work. And, you try to sleep more in order to get your body up and working again.

And, I feel that my spiritual development is progressing too. Why is that? Is that just the awareness of my body, of my self and inner-self? Or would I just pay more attention due to the fact I want to feel my body again in the “normal state”.

Or, another thought for you: If I am not as aware of my body in the “normal state”, could that maybe be the “ill state” or “an ill state”?

Looking forward to hearing from you.

With love
Volker

illness and awareness, inner self, personal development, self development

transform life – live transformation

August 14th, 2008

Living in change, isn’t it? Constant change!

Marcelo, it was so good to chat to you yesterday and see you back on the blog.

Yes, the internal change. You need to overcome your inner barrier (Germans call it the “Schweinehund” which literally means “pig’s dog”).

I strongly believe that if you change things in your mind, your attitude and approach to things, you are more capable to accept external change and cope with external change also. What I mean by that?

There is constant change around us. Politics, work, life, relationship, advertisement, everyone tries to get your attention. If you do not have the inner attitude and focus on the important issues in life, you cannot cope.

Where does that tie in with change? I believe that we are all exposed to constant change. “Managing at the speed of change” – blog entry 1 and blog entry 2 – is a book and a great title to understand that e.g. management needs to keep up with change. And, your inner attitude and approach to life is your management, your self-management. This self management needs to be ready for life, for the change in life, speed of life/change, e.g. life is change, isn’t it?

I like the idea of having nothing on your mind. Unfortunately I have not reached that point yet. The point where your chagne is a point in time, as your head is empty. Not literally, I mean your mind is focused on one point, “nothing”, and you would not have to worry about anything, no change, not yourself, nothing.

Maybe it is similar to pressing the reset button on the computer. The one that closes everything, saves it and restarts the system. I used to get drunk (not anymore) just to forget and “press the reset button”. Nowadays, I strongly believe that the way you describe is much more effective as you clean your mind and focus on nothing else but yourself without looking at anything else, no disturbance.

Before I drift away from the topic too much, if we look at the overall picture and the appreciation of us just looking on the good things in life, coping with change, would that not be all we need to do? Is the meditation and focusing on a little bit just a bit extra to get a bit closer to where we want to be?

I send you love and kindness, Marcelo. Speak soon.

Your friend,
Volker

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